Talking About Infertility with Your Friends and Family

Infertility is something that so many people struggle with. Luckily, in today’s age, there are countless options that couples with infertility issues can turn to when wanting to add a child to the family. The team at Road to Baby Surrogate and Egg Donation Agency are so thankful to provide families struggling with infertility through the surrogacy services that we offer, but we know that there are still countless struggles that these couples still face.

Even with the countless options that are available for couples struggling with infertility, couples who struggle with natural conception are faced with countless challenges, one of the main ones being having to open up about it. Whether it be to your family or your friends, talking about infertility and the alternative methods of adding a child to a family that you’re using is hard. In today’s blog, the team at Road to Baby Surrogacy and Egg Donation Agency will be talking about the process of opening up with friends and family about this particular topic.

Create Boundaries

One of the very first things that you want to do, as a couple, is discuss how much information you’d like to share with others. Privacy is most definitely something that should be considered and given when it comes to infertility. Before you and your partner decide to discuss infertility with your loved ones, sit down and decide together where those boundaries are. What can be said that won’t leave one of you feeling uncomfortable, hurt, or disrespected when the conversation comes up.

Practice Ways to Talk About It

Infertility is an extremely vulnerable topic to talk about, which is why it can be overwhelming to do the first couple of times; you’re still getting practiced at talking about it. If you’re someone that doesn’t love wearing your heart on your sleeve, even when you’re talking to people you love, taking some time to practice ways to talk about it and word it can be extremely helpful. Even just saying these phrases aloud can help you find strength when discussing it later on.

Think About Timing

While there is no ideal time to talk about infertility, the last thing that you want is to discuss this topic with your loved ones when they’re rushed or focused on something else. While there’s absolutely nothing wrong with opening up this conversation on a whim, it never hurts to think about the timing. If the next time that you’ll see your family and friends will be at an event where they could be distracted, consider scheduling something before or after with them. Maybe you could grab a cup of coffee or dinner and discuss your struggles with them when you have their full attention and there isn’t a countdown happening. Though this may seem overly organized, it gives everyone a chance to talk while giving the topic the time it deserves.

Provide Information

Aside from the fact that infertility is a personal and emotional struggle for couples, it’s also one of those topics that people feel taboo discussing. It’s unfortunate that this is the case because it’s actually a very common problem. Don’t hesitate to provide information to your loved ones to not only break the stigma, but to open up the conversation about a very real problem. More than 7 million people experience infertility. This is not something that you’re going through alone, and it’s good to normalize this problem so that your family and friends understand that as well.

Talk About Support

As we’ve mentioned, coping with infertility can be emotional. With that being said, there are ways that your friends and family can support you as you come to terms with it. Talk to your loved ones about ways that they can support you and things that are only going to set you back during this time of healing. As your loved ones, they’re going to want to do what’s best for you. To avoid the chances of them doing something that only upsets you, it’s good to talk about ways means of support that you could use so that they know how to actively use their energy for good.

Consider Your Response

Fertility is challenging for many people to talk about, which is why there are countless slips, questions, and instances where you may need to respond to a difficult question.Whether it’s a friend who is announcing a pregnancy, a family member that’s being overly positive, or someone that is giving you a tough time for not showing up to enough events, it never hurts to have a response ready to go. A straightforward, simple response that explains where you’re coming from, how you feel, and what you need should be more than enough in these instances. 

Let Road to Baby Surrogacy and Egg Donation Agency Help

The team at Road to Baby Surrogacy and Egg Donation Agency understands just how difficult it can be to talk about infertility with loved ones. We also understand how challenging the process of healing from this information can be. With that being said, we want the absolute best for the intended parents that we work with. Reach out to our team with questions, concerns, struggles, and the like and you can guarantee that we will be there to take care of you.

If you’re interested in learning more about the alternatives of adding a baby to your family, reach out to Road to Baby Surrogacy and Egg Donation Agency. While we are located in Carlsbad, CA, we have surrogates and families across the U.S. Contact us today for more information or to get started.